I've been asked, "What do you expect gay people who want children to do?" Here's my answer.

I've been asked, "What do you expect gay people who want children to do?" Here's my answer.

I feel compelled to answer a question I get a lot: "What do you expect gay people who want children to do?"

I can answer that by first asking pro-gay folks, "what do you expect me to do?" The answer to that leads to the answer to the first question.

The Pain Factor

Part of the nastiness comes from the fact that gay people, as a whole, harbor a lot of hurt. I've never known any world except the gay world because I grew up in it from the moment I acquired language. It is a universe of pain. Part of accepting oneself as gay means accepting that if you are gay, you are hurting. Pretending that you don't shoulder unique pains, which the average person is ignorant of, will only confuse and fluster you. Any debate about homosexuality triggers these pains and escalates quickly into emotional warfare.

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